New Year (if I might be allowed to indulge in a cliché) is a time for reflection.
Here comes a reflective question. What really is the nature of this terror-inducing beastie, Public Speaking?
Here comes the answer. Stripped of all the mystique that gets in our way, it is just talking. That’s all.
I know it’s not quite the same as the other talking we spend our lives doing, because other details crash this party. For instance, you are standing while everyone else is sitting. You are facing in the opposite direction to everyone else who all just happen to be looking at you. You are the only one speaking – ah yes, there’s the respect that makes calamity…
Usual talking involves other people speaking also. Dialogue (another word for conversation which is what we’re used to) is a process whereby people feed each other with thoughts, ideas, questions to be answered, and so on – two-way traffic. This is monologue – one way traffic – ay, there’s the rub. You have to do all the talking for a period of time that doesn’t include prompting from anyone else.
So the first thing you need to learn is how to prepare your monologue so that –
- you can deliver it like a proper speaker, in other words without script or notes,
- you answer many of the questions they would have asked,
- the audience can easily follow, understand, and remember what is said, and
- both you and the audience can get full benefit from it.
That can be quickly and easily taught and learnt. The second thing is how to deliver it – a different matter altogether.
Rubbish speakers speak at their audience; mediocre speakers speak to them; proper speakers speak with them. Speech delivery comes down to how well you can develop your relationship with your audience.
Your relationship: your audience. No one else’s; this is entirely your province. And the most persuasive, engaging, compelling you can be is you. The real you.
Oscar Wilde said,
Be yourself; everyone else is taken.
He was right. He also said,
To be natural is such a very difficult pose to keep up.
In that he was wrong. In his modishly brittle cynicism he was suggesting that you could be ‘natural’ only by posing; and that’s nonsense. Being natural is not so much difficult as scary, because certain guards need to be lowered. I’m not saying that you need to be bosom-buddies with everyone in the room, but each member of that audience should sense a connection of some sort. Built properly, an audience relationship can get quite personal.
So personal that learning how to build it should likewise be your province: no one else can reach inside you as well as you can. And that’s why I do not teach people their delivery. I enable them to teach themselves.